Where are you REALLY from?

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What does it mean to be African American? Speaking from personal experience, being African American means being Black and being born in America. For those who were born or grew up in Africa and are currently going to school or living in the U.S., they would consider themselves African first, American second. For example, a young person from Nigeria may not identify as African American, but instead as Nigerian American. For those of us not exactly sure about how how we self-identify outside of the U.S., I had to ask the question: Does the term African American only exist in the United States?

While I was in the Netherlands for 5.5 months during the spring 2016 semester, I was often asked where I was really from, because saying “the United States” never seemed to be good enough. I had to actually be from Africa; if not me, then certainly my parents.  If not them, then my grandparents and so on.  When I respond by saying that my parents, grandparents, great grandparents and so on are also from the United States and not Africa, I experienced what appeared to me as dirty looks. So my question evolved from “What does it mean to be is African American?”, to “What does it mean to be African American around the world?” My experience made me believe that “African American” is specifically an American concept, and that it may not be taught outside of the United States.  

I was continuously asked where I was really from after telling people I was from America, and from the very first moment it happened I struggled with unpacking that experience. I struggled with how that made me feel, how to discuss it, how to interpret it… I just struggled. Honestly, I still don’t quite know what I feel from those particular encounters, but I do know that I learned a lot about others and myself.

What I learned from being asked where I am “really from” is how important it is to travel. When you study abroad, you are able to immerse yourself in a culture other than your own. At the same time, you’re also able to teach people from around the world about you and your culture. Studying abroad broadens your horizons, and by teaching others about yourself, you are strengthening your own understanding about yourself, just as others gain a clearer understanding of themselves when teaching others about their culture. After more than 5 months in the Netherlands, I left  knowing more about Dutch, Slovenian, German, French, and the cultures of all of the people I had intense cultural conversations with, than before I arrived. What I didn’t expect was that at the same time, I learned more about American culture, African American culture specifically, and myself in general.

While you are abroad, you may experience encounters similar to mine, or your experience may be completely different. No matter the experience, embrace it. Try to learn from every encounter and experience, and allow yourself to grow. If being asked where I was really from didn’t do anything other than what I stated above, it made me realize that answering certain questions, even about myself, is not as easy as I thought.

mylaica conner


Mylaica is a Diversity Abroad Content Contributor. She has done a semester long program at Universiteit Leiden in the Netherlands, and a month long research project in China.

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